Avoid getting deeply involved with someone who you think has the ‘potential’ to calm down and engage in a committed relationship – you need to accept someone as they are now rather than what you think they could be if you push them in the right direction.
This is the biggest indication that a man is ready for a new relationship – he is not bitter or cynical about women, commitment or relationships.
Showing affection outside of the bedroom, in ways that don’t always lead to sex – hugging, holding hands, kissing etc – gives a much stronger indication that he is ready for a relationship.
Men will usually engage with people whose values they share, so if their closest friends are people who are in steady, committed relationships, it is a good indication that he is ready for that too.
Even if your sex life is off the scale, if only one part of a man’s anatomy is interested there is no guarantee that the rest will follow.
He can look look at what happened realistically and see where he made mistakes rather than placing the blame for the failure of past relationships solely at the door of his exes, his mother, or women in general.
He will give you his attention and get to know you as an individual and explore the relationship between you without prejudice.
If, however, he is still hanging out with his mates, acting irresponsibly, playing the field and living an active bachelor lifestyle he may not be ready to give it up yet.
Most men will have a combination of the two but over time you will see where his strongest attachments are and whose values he shares.