His masculine instincts will kick in, and in some cases you can end up with a man that acts towards you the same way that a confident man would have acted from the outset.
So, if you do choose to initiate, do so only during the early stages of dating, that is, until he builds his confidence and comfort around you.
I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.
If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.
At most, it is a reliable source of advice for women who want to improve their chances with the opposite sex.
A post I made about why women shouldn't take the initiative in relationships evoked some questions about how to deal with shy men - after all, shy men don't chase women, and are unlikely to initiate anything.
Though he knows his own limitations (as prescribed by his shyness), he also knows what a typical man is "supposed to do." So he recognizes, too, when you are doing it for him.
So it is acceptable for you to initiate with a shy guy. The problem with male shyness is that it wears off in specific situations.The first thing to do when you find yourself attracted to a shy man is to question your feelings for him.In other words, ask yourself "Am I attracted in spite of or because of his shyness? A very close friend of mine is extremely shy, and I know plenty of other guys that are shy. Shy guys, almost by definition, do not have the balls to initiate and pursue women.Unfortunately there is no easy way to discern his true intentions without putting yourself on the line over and over again, and seeing how he responds.This can be humiliating, frustrating, even infuriating, and it can ultimately still end in failure.Unfortunately there is no quantifiable or simple rule here, as his threshold for embarrassment will vary in proportion to his shyness and his pride, which are different in every man. Well, for starters, in the early stages, you will need to give him blatant signs of your interest.